Saving Your Marriage - Marriage Trust
If you are serious in saving your marriage, taking a good honest look at trust in your marriage is crucial. Famous
journalist and humorist Helen Rowland once said, “Never trust
a husband too far, nor a bachelor too near.”
This quotation may have also been echoed a number of times by many
wives who have been cheated by their husbands. Even husbands who have
experienced deceit from unfaithful wives may say the same things
against their spouses.
How could a couple say trust still exists within
their marriage? Without trust, could a couple be comfortable with their
relationship? If there is no trust then forget about saving your marriage.
In his book Broken Promises, Mended Hearts: Maintaining Trust in Love
Relationships, Joel Block defines trust as “assured reliance
on the character, strength or truth of someone or something.”
Michelle
Rowland, a 29-year-old business analyst from Cleveland got married to
David four years ago. Michelle and David had been together since
college and had never experienced any serious conflicts in their
relationship. Michelle thought it was all perfect until she caught her
husband sleeping with another woman after two years of their marriage.
However, this did not end their marriage and they decided to give it
one more try but things have changed since then. Michelle had started
becoming so jealous, “I even hired a private investigator to
spy on my husband,” Michelle admitted. When you are committed
to saving your marriage, you will understand that affairs take
place for a reason.
Normally because a partner is unhappy.
Linda
Pucci, a psychologist said that most people should follow what their
intuition calls them to do although it may not always be trusted. She
added people may feel when something is not right even though they do
not catch the other in the act. She also said that what ruins a
relationship is when couples are not honest to each other.
In
the 2004 comedy movie White Chicks, the role of “Gina
Copeland” was a jealous wife who had always suspected her
husband of cheating. It was obvious that she did not trust her husband
in so many ways as there were times when she would track him down to
prove whether he’s having an affair or not. Because Gina was
full of doubts, she was not comfortable whenever her husband was away
from her but later on, all her suspicions were proven wrong and were
all paranoia. Have you been suspicious over your partner and is this behaviour likely to be saving your marriage?
However,
sometimes, one cannot blame the other for losing that trust especially
if he or she had cheated in the past. Some marriage experts say it
could be true that a husband or a wife may lose his or her trust in the
other, which could harm the marriage. However, according to Dr. Robi
Ludwig, the level of trust will never be the same after the spouse had
done an act of infidelity against the other but it does not mean that
this will completely end the marriage. That's not to say that saving
your marriage is impossible. it all depends on how committed you both
are to making the marriage work.
According
to psychologist Reka Morvay, in order to rebuild trust in a
relationship, it is important for someone to keep his word. She said
that this is a way to regain one’s credibility and to earn
back that trust that may have been lost between a couple.
On the other hand, Block also believes that the most fortunate are
those couples who give each other a trust. Trust is a critical element
in any relationship. Saving your marriage may just be a case of
highlighting and fixing any trust issues.
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